Several obstacles in the road of our personal progress won’t have personal solutions. We’ll need friends, family, coworkers, doctors, lawyers, accountants, ministers, life coaches, therapists, GPS navigators, and late night TV psychics, to help us. We can’t do everything ourselves. Before you say anything, let me remind you that it’s the 21st century! Asking for help is no longer reserved for sissies, milksops, and pantywaists. Even Superman occasionally needs Lois to come to his rescue when he’s been locked in a Kryptonite cage by some sinister mastermind bent on the destruction of Metropolis...
If you feel like asking for help is an admission of failure, sit down, fasten your safety belts, keep both hands inside the vehicle at all times and prepare to have your paradigm shifted. Asking for help is an important step towards success and not the final resting place for your manhood! So what if you needed help to get it done! You’re man/woman enough to admit it and take care of business anyway.
Follow these easy steps from this article on eHow
1. Know to ask for help before frustration and anger take over. This is the first and most important step. If you're an "overdoer" and want to handle things by yourself, it may not be as easy to identify what exactly you'll need help with. Take a few minutes to ponder this.
2. Leave behind feelings of shame and embarrassment. Just because you're asking for help doesn't mean you're a failure. It's actually wise and a very successful strategy because it will save stress and time.
3. Talk to someone who you're close to--like a friend or family member--if you're feeling a bit intimidated asking for help from someone else. Maybe they can point you in the right direction. Think about what will happen if the situation is not dealt with and all the weight is on your shoulders.
4. State clearly what it is that would be helpful and be specific. People generally want to help they just need to know exactly what is expected of them.
5. Abstain from whining when you're doing too much; it will turn people away. Be positive and you'll have the support of people around who will often pitch in on their own if they feel you're deserving of help because of the kind of person you are.
6. Say thank you. Always be grateful and appreciative when someone has done something to help. That way if you'll need to ask for help again they will be happy and willing to give a hand. Remember to help others too.
Get help when you need it. If you feel like you need help achieving your goals, but don’t know where to get it, give me a call (801) 686-8226. We can talk and see if life coaching would be right for you.