Instead of answering a question this week, I want to introduce you to My Life, an exciting new series on the VLC Blog. To kick it off, we’ll be following along in the life of Cecilia as she takes part in the coaching process for the first time. For two months I’ll be posting short interviews with her along with her online coaching diary. My hope is that we’ll all learn from her struggles and be inspired by her achievements.
Mini Bio
Cecilia is a wife and mother who frequently works 80 hours a week to improve her family’s financial situation while her husband finishes school. She’s a billing specialist/price negotiator by day and a course instructor by night. The stress that comes with working two jobs makes it difficult for her to enjoy the little time she gets to spend with her family. She wants nothing more than to feel in control of her life and regain some balance. She’s overworked, stressed out, and needs a change. That’s where life coaching comes in.
Tune in every week to check on her progress and see what you can learn from her adventures in life coaching. The first interview will be posted Thursday, March 31st.
As a side note, I’m allowing comments on the VLC Blog! Did a post help you? Do you know a funny joke? Have any words of encouragement for Cecilia? We want to hear from you! Leave a comment today!
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Thursday, March 24, 2011
Monday, March 21, 2011
Ten Minute Fix: Get Some Help
Several obstacles in the road of our personal progress won’t have personal solutions. We’ll need friends, family, coworkers, doctors, lawyers, accountants, ministers, life coaches, therapists, GPS navigators, and late night TV psychics, to help us. We can’t do everything ourselves. Before you say anything, let me remind you that it’s the 21st century! Asking for help is no longer reserved for sissies, milksops, and pantywaists. Even Superman occasionally needs Lois to come to his rescue when he’s been locked in a Kryptonite cage by some sinister mastermind bent on the destruction of Metropolis...
If you feel like asking for help is an admission of failure, sit down, fasten your safety belts, keep both hands inside the vehicle at all times and prepare to have your paradigm shifted. Asking for help is an important step towards success and not the final resting place for your manhood! So what if you needed help to get it done! You’re man/woman enough to admit it and take care of business anyway.
Follow these easy steps from this article on eHow
1. Know to ask for help before frustration and anger take over. This is the first and most important step. If you're an "overdoer" and want to handle things by yourself, it may not be as easy to identify what exactly you'll need help with. Take a few minutes to ponder this.
2. Leave behind feelings of shame and embarrassment. Just because you're asking for help doesn't mean you're a failure. It's actually wise and a very successful strategy because it will save stress and time.
3. Talk to someone who you're close to--like a friend or family member--if you're feeling a bit intimidated asking for help from someone else. Maybe they can point you in the right direction. Think about what will happen if the situation is not dealt with and all the weight is on your shoulders.
4. State clearly what it is that would be helpful and be specific. People generally want to help they just need to know exactly what is expected of them.
5. Abstain from whining when you're doing too much; it will turn people away. Be positive and you'll have the support of people around who will often pitch in on their own if they feel you're deserving of help because of the kind of person you are.
6. Say thank you. Always be grateful and appreciative when someone has done something to help. That way if you'll need to ask for help again they will be happy and willing to give a hand. Remember to help others too.
Get help when you need it. If you feel like you need help achieving your goals, but don’t know where to get it, give me a call (801) 686-8226. We can talk and see if life coaching would be right for you.
If you feel like asking for help is an admission of failure, sit down, fasten your safety belts, keep both hands inside the vehicle at all times and prepare to have your paradigm shifted. Asking for help is an important step towards success and not the final resting place for your manhood! So what if you needed help to get it done! You’re man/woman enough to admit it and take care of business anyway.
Follow these easy steps from this article on eHow
1. Know to ask for help before frustration and anger take over. This is the first and most important step. If you're an "overdoer" and want to handle things by yourself, it may not be as easy to identify what exactly you'll need help with. Take a few minutes to ponder this.
2. Leave behind feelings of shame and embarrassment. Just because you're asking for help doesn't mean you're a failure. It's actually wise and a very successful strategy because it will save stress and time.
3. Talk to someone who you're close to--like a friend or family member--if you're feeling a bit intimidated asking for help from someone else. Maybe they can point you in the right direction. Think about what will happen if the situation is not dealt with and all the weight is on your shoulders.
4. State clearly what it is that would be helpful and be specific. People generally want to help they just need to know exactly what is expected of them.
5. Abstain from whining when you're doing too much; it will turn people away. Be positive and you'll have the support of people around who will often pitch in on their own if they feel you're deserving of help because of the kind of person you are.
6. Say thank you. Always be grateful and appreciative when someone has done something to help. That way if you'll need to ask for help again they will be happy and willing to give a hand. Remember to help others too.
Get help when you need it. If you feel like you need help achieving your goals, but don’t know where to get it, give me a call (801) 686-8226. We can talk and see if life coaching would be right for you.
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
What is Life Coaching?
I get this question a lot, and I think I finally know a good way to answer it. You see, I love analogies. They have always helped me make sense of and then communicate abstract concepts, so I went ahead and thought of one to describe life coaching and how it is different from therapy and counseling.
Let’s pretend that you don’t know how to drive. You can start the car, press the pedal and steer okay, but you don’t know any of the rules of the road. You don’t know which side to drive on, what the signs mean, or what other drivers are doing. At best, you’ll make a lot of people mad and at worst you’ll end up injuring yourself or someone else. This can be compared to someone who needs counseling or therapy. They don’t know society’s rules or simply have difficulty following them. These are people with depression, addictions, schizophrenia, anxiety, eating disorders, etc… A licensed therapist or counselor helps them to cope with and learn whatever rule of the road they are struggling with.
Most of us know how to drive though. We know the rules of the road and how to be safe. We may go over the speed limit some times, but for the most part we’re pretty cautious. But imagine that you know how to drive, and you know all the rules of the road, but you don’t know where you want to go. You’ll just drive around aimlessly. On the road you might see a cool place to stop and take pictures or meet a nice old man at a vegetable stand, but at the end of the day you haven’t made any real progress. You might even just go around in circles never getting anywhere. Even if you know where you want to end up, you might not know how to get there, so you take random roads hoping that eventually you’ll recognize where you want to be. These are the people who need life coaching. They either don’t have any psychological illness, or are already working through it with a licensed professional. They are whole, functional people who just need to figure out what they want and how to get it. Life coaching helps people discover the goals that will get them where they want to be and the proper motivations that will help them achieve those goals.
Let’s pretend that you don’t know how to drive. You can start the car, press the pedal and steer okay, but you don’t know any of the rules of the road. You don’t know which side to drive on, what the signs mean, or what other drivers are doing. At best, you’ll make a lot of people mad and at worst you’ll end up injuring yourself or someone else. This can be compared to someone who needs counseling or therapy. They don’t know society’s rules or simply have difficulty following them. These are people with depression, addictions, schizophrenia, anxiety, eating disorders, etc… A licensed therapist or counselor helps them to cope with and learn whatever rule of the road they are struggling with.
Most of us know how to drive though. We know the rules of the road and how to be safe. We may go over the speed limit some times, but for the most part we’re pretty cautious. But imagine that you know how to drive, and you know all the rules of the road, but you don’t know where you want to go. You’ll just drive around aimlessly. On the road you might see a cool place to stop and take pictures or meet a nice old man at a vegetable stand, but at the end of the day you haven’t made any real progress. You might even just go around in circles never getting anywhere. Even if you know where you want to end up, you might not know how to get there, so you take random roads hoping that eventually you’ll recognize where you want to be. These are the people who need life coaching. They either don’t have any psychological illness, or are already working through it with a licensed professional. They are whole, functional people who just need to figure out what they want and how to get it. Life coaching helps people discover the goals that will get them where they want to be and the proper motivations that will help them achieve those goals.
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